CHANNILLO

L.M. Giannone


Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "OMG I live for having moments where there are no expectations or deadlines or commitments or errands. I rarely stop, and I even more rarely make time for myself. In my twenties and thirties I thrived on going out to clubs all night. In my forties I long for a Friday night where I can just stay home, curl up on the couch with a good book or movie, turn the phone off, and just chill. As each day passes, I seek these moments more and more, to the point where I am a mere shadow of who I used to be. I spend my vacations not touring and doing a million things in the guidebook, but relaxing, enjoying the moments, having a thin itinerary, and just going with the flow. I finally learned to pencil in ME time as an appointment in my calendar and others have followed suit. I don't feel guilty in the least. It's the only way to retain my sanity. Lisa"
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2 days ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "Isn't it infuriating that in the old days, being a stay at home mom wasn't considered REAL WORK? It was likely harder work than going to an office for 8 hours and then being off the clock. Being a mom was a 24/7 job. There weren't smart phones, video games, tv, etc to plop the kids in front of so they could be entertained. Moms had to cook, clean, and be a mother all at the same time. In today's world, parents pay someone a shit load of money to watch their kids for them, while stay at home mom's weren't (and aren't) compensated a dime. I know some couples where the man stayed at home during the child's formative years, especially when the wife had a better paying job or better medical benefits. Lisa"
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2 days ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "It's funny, but when I was in my twenties, my Grandmother was so eager for me to get married. I was the first granddaughter on both sides, and she wanted more grandchildren. I knew from an early age that I didn't want to be a mother. It requires a level of patience, understanding, and selflessness, none of which I possess. My friends at the time were perplexed. How could I be so selfish? How could I not want to be a mother? I also knew I didn't want to be a wife. I am stubbornly independent, inpatient, and just plain hard to please. I never let the beliefs or desires of my family, my friends, or my co-workers sway me. The only person who knows me best is me, and I knew neither marriage or motherhood would make me happy. In fact it would make me even more depressed. I much prefer being a mom to two kittens, who are somewhat independent (bonus), and enjoying the company of casual relationships where we both get only what we need, and nothing that we don't. It's worked for almost 50 years and I wouldn't change a thing. What makes one person happy makes another person miserable. Only we know what is right for ourselves. Lisa"
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2 days ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "Thank you! I left out key chapters so it wouldn't scare men away from the series. Enjoy 40! Lisa"
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24 days ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "thanks Celaine! I hope it doesn't scare you too much! I was going to do an installment about menopause but I am unable to write new material for awhile. Some women loved their forties."
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2 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "when it rains it pours. A ton of things are happening and none of them are good. Thank goodness for medication to get me through. Sorry I am not more social on WWF. Hopefully there is some relief soon. Thanks for your thought and for subscribing! Lisa"
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2 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "same here. we were speechless when we saw the explosion."
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5 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "i think we're related! I so relate to many of the installments. I am not a fan of children and get highly agitated at parents on planes, in stores, etc, that allow them to be out of control and disrespectful. Why should we have to suffer for their unfortunate act? ;( I am an aunt x3 and I am ok with them. But I told my brother I don't do diapers. So I got out of baby sitting. As far as the co-worker, I would have thanked him but graciously declined. I don't feel the need to follow the "etiquette" rules. If I don't know them, don't like them, I don't feel obligated to buy or attend. Even family members. It sucks that these things now occur at the office, whether a bride or a groom, which is so inappropriate. And the engagement parties! These brides sure like to milk it for all they can. I will never get any reciprocation, being fiercely independent and childless, so I applied a blanket policy of no gifts for anyone, period. :)"
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5 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "how fast a year went!"
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5 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "and it's amazing how many places sugar is: bread, desserts, fruit!"
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5 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "I have tried so many ways, and my weight fluctuates. It doesn't help to be middle-aged either. A few weeks ago, I increased my water intake, and reduced sugar almost altogether. Ordered my coffees with cream or milk, but no sugar. it took me a little bit to handle that, but I lost 20 lbs in only a few weeks, just reducing sugar. No more syrups in my coffee, flavors in my yogurt, i used honey or cinnamon. Didn't do any exercise. Results! Lisa :)"
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5 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "sorry if it was too harsh or angsty. hope my boss doesn't read it LOL"
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6 months ago

Commented on All Of Me:
   "thank you SO much! Very kind of you to say. I appreciate it very much."
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7 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "thanks you are very sweet. Hope you had a wonderful Xmas!"
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8 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "i couldn't agree more. I work in corporate IT and after 25 years am so burned out. so tired of racing around like a lunatic, doing three people's work for the salary of half of one, responding to their emergencies (which aren't mine) and could have been avoided had they been more proactive and had actually planned, hired staff, promised a reasonable turnaround. It took me a long time but I have rebelled in my own way. The more they rush me, the slower I will go. I make it clear there are boundaries that cannot be overstepped. I only work my shift and then I am unavailable. It has helped my sanity and I am way more relaxed than I used to be. No more triple tasking."
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8 months ago