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Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "totally relate! Some relationships are beyond exhausting"
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27 days ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "LOL. I totally don't get why in god's name people feel the need to talk to a stranger in an elevator. I certainly don't. I am perfectly happy to look at my phone, look down, or stare straight ahead for a glorious 30-40 seconds. But there are some that feel they just MUST talk, make a comment about what you are holding, why, where you were or might be going, etc. STOP ! :)"
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1 month ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "Aw, thank you so much. Happy holidays! Lisa"
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1 month ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "I am so thrilled, it does seem you've struck the perfect balance. You are able to do the work you love AND spend time with your son. WIN WIN."
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2 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "I hate judgmental people! Only you and your husband can determine what is best for you."
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2 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "I think you and your work are terrific! Definitely worth the monthly rate. I find Twitter followers aren't the best measuring stick. They are flaky at best, many follow only to be followed back, or to sell their wares like a used car salesman. They give you a day and if you don't respond, they are gone. Those readers I can do without. The ones that really follow, like, retweet, and comment are the ones to care about. The fact that you've had much success and multiple publishers, indeed says something! For me, I've kept my expectations low. This whole writing thing began as a way to combat my depression, get crap off my chest and out of my head. The fact people actually read it, liked it, and stuck around, blew my mind. It gave me a renewed purpose. The monthly check certainly is nice to have. I make more here than say Amazon or Barnes and Noble. They take such a huge percent it is like giving it away. Don't give up."
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2 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "I also suffer from depression (bipolar). There are days even inhaling takes a ton of energy and incentive. It's frustrating because there are so many things I just can't seem to do anymore, things that are so easy. I make very small goals for myself and obtain them as best I can. That in itself lifts me a little. Kudos for setting the goals and making the attempts. That's half the battle. I know this is an old post, but I hope it went well. (the pitch)"
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2 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "I hope you'll take this as a compliment, which is how I intended it. This is so funny! It has a Nora Ephron-ish quality to it, finding hilarity in the normal."
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2 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "If she is like my parents, they are completely worried I will miss my plane!"
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3 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "I can totally relate! For me, I think it has something to do with control. If it is an expensive dress, trip, show, pair of shoes, and I want it, I will gladly pay for it. But charge me a ton for shipping it (sometimes more than the article itself), add ridiculous service fees (ie ticketmaster, stubhub), or just do something that I am not expecting, and I go APE! I splurge on spa days, vacations, golf rounds, etc. But add a $7.00 transaction fee for allowing me to do a digital transaction which does not require human intervention is so beyond me!"
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3 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "anti-depressants, mood adjusters are AWESOME, but like everything else, have their own side effects. I am rather grumpy a lot, too. A lot of irritating people and irritating things to deal with. I am more laid back now, which helps. I hope you find some sort of remedy, and if you do, let me know what it is!"
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3 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "Ha! This was a funny one, and very relatable. Luckily so much can be done online without visiting the DMV. I haven't gone for the new ID yet. What I can tell you is that for SOME ungodly reason, California is completely backwards in terms of the DMV. They are open very limited hours and everything takes MONTHS. In Connecticut, you can have your photo taken and walk out with your new license in hand in under 20 minutes (after waiting your turn of course). You can even have your photo retaken. In California it takes at least a month, more like two. They give you a temporary piece of paper and you walk out and hope that your license arrives before you die. I complained and asked them with all of the technology coming out of CA, why the hell can't they manage taking a digital photo that takes 1 minute! Security guards can make ID badges in less than 5 minutes. For some reason, CA has a much more rigorous background checking progress and it requires this length of time. When it finally arrives and your eyes are closed, you probably won't be going back any time soon to have it retaken. You live with it."
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3 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "I can tell you, you aren't missing much! I too am gravely out of touch, and I DON'T CARE! It's true, some stuff just isn't worth thinking about or worrying about anymore. At work, I am purposely as ignorant as can be, and I have never been so happy. You can always use Four Square or some app to tell you what's a hot place to eat, and not worry about the rest. Life is too short. Enjoy your little man and your husband. I learned the hard way that stuff at work just doesn't matter. I think you subscribed to my No Vacancy. I have a rather jaded attitude, but I have become much more laid back than I used to be. I don't cloud my mind with things that just don't need to be there. Is your series over? (or has it been too crazy to write?) I hope the latter.."
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3 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "Whoever created "work" sucks in my opinion. if I retired RIGHT NOW, I could think of a thousand things I would rather be doing. But as you said, the sad reality is that without the paycheck, those things aren't possible. And yet working for that paycheck makes us miserable, tired, stressed, sick, missing crucial milestones. When my friend who had aspired climbing the corporate ladder, being a manager, making great money, had her first, then her second child, the 2 hour commutes one way, the long hours at work, the stress, and then dealing with the house, marriage, and kids, something was about to blow. When her kids were old enough to go to school, she thought she should go back to work. They definitely needed a second paycheck. I said to her why in god's name would she want to go back to full time work, not get paid OT, sit in traffic for hours, and be stressed out. She had an opportunity to work 3 days for flexible hours within 5 minutes of home. But it was something certainly not at the level she was accustomed to or striving for before she had kids. But priorities change! I would much rather enjoy life then be a slave to The Man (ha ha). If you can find something that will make you happy, is flexible allowing for unscheduled appointments and illnesses, allows you to balance work and home, and has a paycheck even if much smaller than you are used to, I say go for it! Money definitely doesn't buy happiness, I can vouge for that. If I could freelance part time and write full time I would be thrilled. Set your own hours, work as much or as little as you want, and be in control of your life. I am extremely fortunate. I am in the IT sector for the past 24 years. It took some time to make money and move up, but thanks to technology, I can do my entire job offsite. I work the hours I want, don't commute, don't have stress, and fit stuff in between during lunch like running errands, doing chores, etc, when there are less crowds. The downside is that it takes discipline and isn't highly advised for extroverts, I do have the best of both worlds now. I work from my deck, my pool, hotels, airports, etc. I can live anywhere. Unfortunately, I got very sick from stress and it became mandatory for me to take back control. Luckily my flexibility is also mandated by doctor, so my company also must respect it. But this is exception not the rule. I hope you can find a happy medium. Until then, no guilt!"
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3 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "Sometimes I long for an unstructured day, and then when I get one, I can either not relax, or feel useless if I don't achieve and knock things off a list! There's probably a happy medium. Spending time with your son, taking advantage of his nap time, whether it is a nap for you as well, or using that time to soak in a tub, read, write, or even watch a mindless soap or chick flick. Rather than schedule hard-set times of day (and not make them b/c a baby is hardly that predictable), I would make small achievable goals for the day, like enjoying a few moments for yourself, a cup of quiet tea, reading a chapter or leafing through a magazine, painting or writing, and enjoying your family as much as possible. Don't be ashamed to order take out, or hire a babysitter for even 2-3 hours, so that you can balance being a mom, a wife, and a woman with her own needs. Schedule a spa day! Have a date night at least 1-2 times a month. I hope I'm not coming across as preachy, and it is easier said than done. I do know that if you don't make time for yourself, too, it is easy to become depressed or resentful."
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3 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "I long for the days when it was SO easy to make new friends, especially during college. Things definitely got harder when you were surrounded by people at work that you would never have anything in common with outside of work, and if you are like me, don't want to think about work when I am not at work. I have also been burned and have much less friends in my inner circle. I find the quality and not the quantity is more important. I bet things will change dramatically as your son ages. Meeting moms and other parents in the park, at various activities, and then during preschool and school. There must be other women you're age going through the same thing. And you will find them. Whether it be from running, attending local events, and I bet there are some great groups on meetup, if you can find the time."
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3 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "this is so beautifully written"
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3 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "OMG I live for having moments where there are no expectations or deadlines or commitments or errands. I rarely stop, and I even more rarely make time for myself. In my twenties and thirties I thrived on going out to clubs all night. In my forties I long for a Friday night where I can just stay home, curl up on the couch with a good book or movie, turn the phone off, and just chill. As each day passes, I seek these moments more and more, to the point where I am a mere shadow of who I used to be. I spend my vacations not touring and doing a million things in the guidebook, but relaxing, enjoying the moments, having a thin itinerary, and just going with the flow. I finally learned to pencil in ME time as an appointment in my calendar and others have followed suit. I don't feel guilty in the least. It's the only way to retain my sanity. Lisa"
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4 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "Isn't it infuriating that in the old days, being a stay at home mom wasn't considered REAL WORK? It was likely harder work than going to an office for 8 hours and then being off the clock. Being a mom was a 24/7 job. There weren't smart phones, video games, tv, etc to plop the kids in front of so they could be entertained. Moms had to cook, clean, and be a mother all at the same time. In today's world, parents pay someone a shit load of money to watch their kids for them, while stay at home mom's weren't (and aren't) compensated a dime. I know some couples where the man stayed at home during the child's formative years, especially when the wife had a better paying job or better medical benefits. Lisa"
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4 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "It's funny, but when I was in my twenties, my Grandmother was so eager for me to get married. I was the first granddaughter on both sides, and she wanted more grandchildren. I knew from an early age that I didn't want to be a mother. It requires a level of patience, understanding, and selflessness, none of which I possess. My friends at the time were perplexed. How could I be so selfish? How could I not want to be a mother? I also knew I didn't want to be a wife. I am stubbornly independent, inpatient, and just plain hard to please. I never let the beliefs or desires of my family, my friends, or my co-workers sway me. The only person who knows me best is me, and I knew neither marriage or motherhood would make me happy. In fact it would make me even more depressed. I much prefer being a mom to two kittens, who are somewhat independent (bonus), and enjoying the company of casual relationships where we both get only what we need, and nothing that we don't. It's worked for almost 50 years and I wouldn't change a thing. What makes one person happy makes another person miserable. Only we know what is right for ourselves. Lisa"
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4 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "Thank you! I left out key chapters so it wouldn't scare men away from the series. Enjoy 40! Lisa"
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4 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "thanks Celaine! I hope it doesn't scare you too much! I was going to do an installment about menopause but I am unable to write new material for awhile. Some women loved their forties."
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6 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "when it rains it pours. A ton of things are happening and none of them are good. Thank goodness for medication to get me through. Sorry I am not more social on WWF. Hopefully there is some relief soon. Thanks for your thought and for subscribing! Lisa"
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6 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "same here. we were speechless when we saw the explosion."
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9 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "i think we're related! I so relate to many of the installments. I am not a fan of children and get highly agitated at parents on planes, in stores, etc, that allow them to be out of control and disrespectful. Why should we have to suffer for their unfortunate act? ;( I am an aunt x3 and I am ok with them. But I told my brother I don't do diapers. So I got out of baby sitting. As far as the co-worker, I would have thanked him but graciously declined. I don't feel the need to follow the "etiquette" rules. If I don't know them, don't like them, I don't feel obligated to buy or attend. Even family members. It sucks that these things now occur at the office, whether a bride or a groom, which is so inappropriate. And the engagement parties! These brides sure like to milk it for all they can. I will never get any reciprocation, being fiercely independent and childless, so I applied a blanket policy of no gifts for anyone, period. :)"
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9 months ago

Commented on Don't Forget to Write:
   "how fast a year went!"
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9 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "and it's amazing how many places sugar is: bread, desserts, fruit!"
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9 months ago

Commented on Musings of a Champagne Addict:
   "I have tried so many ways, and my weight fluctuates. It doesn't help to be middle-aged either. A few weeks ago, I increased my water intake, and reduced sugar almost altogether. Ordered my coffees with cream or milk, but no sugar. it took me a little bit to handle that, but I lost 20 lbs in only a few weeks, just reducing sugar. No more syrups in my coffee, flavors in my yogurt, i used honey or cinnamon. Didn't do any exercise. Results! Lisa :)"
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9 months ago

Commented on Midlife Crisis:
   "sorry if it was too harsh or angsty. hope my boss doesn't read it LOL"
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10 months ago