So, You're Thirty!
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One morning, I woke up, and despite my best efforts, I was thirty. I called it "25 Take Six" and "20-10." My friends laughed at my absurdity, but I was serious - I would not turn thirty.
I had recently emerged from an eight year relationship – a break-up that necessitated a move half-way across the country, and a “Oh my gosh how do I function as a single person?!” five-month hiking trip with my best friend. I was living back in my parents’ house for the first time in 12 years, and working for pennies as a teacher in a private school.
I had expected to be solidly entrenched in a glittery career by the time I reached thirty. I had planned to be married, raising children, owning a home – doing adult things. Waking up in my parents’ basement had not been part of the plan.
“So, YOU’RE 30!” read a well-intentioned but cruel text message on my phone. I rolled out of bed and spent the day floating around a friend's pool, getting drunk and mourning my twenties.
This was almost a year ago now, and I’ve since taken long strides. I moved out of my parents’ house, began a career in higher education, and paid off one of my student loans. I’ve learned how to eradicate needless people from my life, assert myself when necessary, and ask for what I need. I feel as though I’ve grown more in this one year than I did in the ten prior.
However, the challenge of "adulting" seems to have increased in its strength. I have a solid job now, and an apartment. What's next? Do I want to get married and start a family? If so, how do I meet someone? Do I need to begin frequenting happy hours? Do I join a sports team? Do I (cringe) register for Tinder?
And, what about career growth? How do I climb the career ladder?
My commute to work requires me to ride the subway and then walk along a busy city avenue. All around me, professionals rush around, juggling coffee and laptop cases, speaking into their Bluetooth devices; putting forth the image of utter competence.
I act this way also. Is everyone just play-acting?
So, this is thirty. How do I become an adult?
This weekly "How-To" (or probably more aptly "How-To-Not") column will chronicle the daily triumphs and bewilderments of a clueless 30-something trying to navigate adulthood by working, dating and socializing in a city.