Many years ago, I was once described as a Ming vase held together with Elmer's glue. As apt a description as any for what I had become.
   You have to understand, abuse is a slow process. It does not happen overnight, it is gradual and methodical, building upon itself layer after layer. With a bizarre combination of restraint mixed with ever increasing violence, they will eventually, given enough time, achieve complete and utter dominance. Often with very little resistance. Violence is not the goal of the abuser. It is the reward they give themselves for a job well done. The goal is the complete submission of will. All of this training takes time and dedication. It is a focusing of effort on another person, to bend and mold them into what the abuser considers their ideal. Like water...

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