I came across another one of those articles recently. The kind that feels confident, corrective, and tidy. This one declared that emotionally intelligent people should stop talking about their feelings — or at least stop leading with them. The premise was simple: talking about feelings too soon can derail understanding. Better to clarify facts, assumptions, and intent first.

On the surface, that sounds reasonable. Sensible, even.

And yet, as I sat with it, something felt off. Not wrong exactly — just unfinished.

It’s a familiar sensation. Like watching someone skim a stone across water and mistake the ripples for depth.

These articles often arrive dressed as wisdom, but they rarely linger long enough to understand what they’re reacting to. In this case, the problem isn&r...

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