“We learn the ropes of life by untying its knots.”
– Jean Toomer, American poet, novelist and important figure of the Harlem Renaissance

Imagine you encountered a person trying to put in a screw with a hammer, pound a nail with a wrench or loosen a bolt with a screwdriver. (Ladies, perhaps you’re married to such a person.) What would you say to him? Perhaps you would say, “Excuse me, but you’re using the wrong tool for the job!”

Unfortunately, many of us do the equivalent of that when we use the wrong strategy to resolve problems that confound us each day. Different problems require different approaches, but we aren’t always equipped to handle that much variety.

Abraham Maslow, the late American psychologist, aptly reasoned, &...

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